Domestic Violence – Spiritual Sounding Board

Phil Johnson, Grace Community Church, Sex Abuse, Domestic Violence, Twitter *** Blog reader, Christina, left an important comment on yesterday’s post regarding an insensitive and callous tweet Pastor Phil Johnson sent out regarding domestic violence. His tweet created quite an uproar on … Continue reading →

Lori Alexander, Domestic Violence, Biblical Submission -by Kathi There is nothing new under Lori Alexander’s sun. She still writes about submission, and I’m sure she always will. Every once in a while she will write a post that gives us … Continue reading →

Bethlehem Baptist Church, Domestic Violence, Emotional Abuse, Excommunication, Spiritual Abuse *** Over a year ago (November 1, 2016), I posted the article, 1-1/2 years Later, Bethlehem Baptist Church Doesn’t Seem to get Domestic Violence: A Personal Story. I have a followup to that … Continue reading →

Mike Lawyer, Counseling, Abuse in Marriage, Abuse of Authority I have been in contact with a woman named Gen, who has agreed to let me post this letter she received from Mike Lawyer, “on behalf of Christ Church Session.” Christ … Continue reading →

Domestic violence, Church response, Rob Porter *** You may have heard in the news recently about Rob Porter who worked for President Trump in the White House. Porter recently resigned his position as White House Staff Secretary after allegations of … Continue reading →

Lori Alexander, John Piper, Christian Marriage, Divorce -By Kathi It is no surprise that Lori Alexander at The Transformed Wife is pushing John Piper’s words on marriage and divorce. Lori continues to show that there is no room for divorce … Continue reading →

Paige Patterson, Domestic Violence, SBC, Divorce *** Over the weekend, an old recording of an interview from 2000 with Paige Patterson resurfaced, causing an uproar because of his response regarding domestic violence. Paige Patterson is a prominent Southern Baptist leader and … Continue reading →

-by Kathi Lori Alexander at The Transformed Wife continues to advocate that there is no room for divorce for a spouse experiencing physical abuse. A commentor at her post, For Those Considering Divorce – Stop!, speaks about her mother’s … Continue reading →

-by Kathi *** K.B. Davies frequently comments on Lori Alexander’s Facebook page, The Transformed Wife. Lori allows his comments to stay and doesn’t challenge them. Why Lori leaves comments from men like K.B. and Trey unchallenged is mind boggling. Personally, I … Continue reading →

*** I ran across a post on Facebook that a friend wrote. Flo Fromer-Wedding posted about the spiritual tug-of-war process she went through while she was in an abusive marriage. Unfortunately, the church is often a volatile place for abused … Continue reading →

It’s been a while since I have posted about Saeed Abedini or his ex-wife, Naghmeh. Naghmeh Panahi posted a public note on Facebook yesterday. You may recall that after Saeed Abedini was released from prison in Iran, Naghmeh filed for … Continue reading →

"You may be thinking, "I'm willing to work at having a close relationship with my husband, but he is not." If he is unwilling to communicate or is cruel and yet you respond in a godly manner, you will be suffering for righteousness sake and God will meet your needs." ~Martha Peace

This is one practical way that a pastor can help a domestic violence victim - by providing a letter stating that she is needing time off work or a safety accommodation to deal with domestic violence-related issues.

If church leaders are counseling abused spouses to go back to their abusive partners because they don't meet the church-approved "divorce criteria," they are contributing to the abuse by placing survivors in harm's way.

Safety plans are helpful for victims/survivors at different points of time. Safety plans help victims/survivors to think through ways to stay safe while in a harmful situation or navigate after leaving an abusive relationship. One thing that I have learned from listening to people is that survivors always have to be on the offensive. It's…… Continue reading

It’s obvious that in Peace’s world of submission, a husband can behave any way he likes without consequence; otherwise, options would be given to wives for how to deal with abusive behaviors.

Please preach and communicate as if one in three women listening in your audience are victims of domestic violence.

How does a Christian wife respond to her husband's evil behavior? This orderly list provides more harm than help.

Next time you meet a divorced survivor, look in her eyes with kindness and ask yourself how bad it had to be to risk all she did.

It's time for Focus on the Family to start acknowledging abuse happens in Christian marriages.

An Abuse Survivor’s Response to Pastor Phil Johnson’s Insensitive Tweet on Domestic Violence

Lori Alexander Refuses to Talk About Abuse

Bethlehem Baptist Church Excommunicates Victim of Domestic Violence

BREAKING: Leaders at Doug Wilson’s Christ Church Put Woman in Abusive Marriage Under Church Discipline

A Personal Story and a Sad Conclusion When Pastors Failed to Respond Appropriately to Domestic Violence

God Loves Victims More Than Saving an Abusive Marriage

Analysis: Paige Patterson’s Teachings on Domestic Violence Keep Victims in Harm’s Way

Lori Alexander, Advocate of Women Staying Married to Their Abusers

K.B. Davies Says Domestic Violence is No Excuse for Divorce Even in Case of Death

An Abusive Marriage, Well-Meaning Christians, and God’s Word

Naghmeh Panahi, Ex-Wife of Former Iranian Prisoner, “Pastor” Saeed Abedini, Posts Public Statement on Facebook

Book Review Series –“The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter 4: Doing Your Minimal Duty to God

Domestic Violence: A Call to Pastors – Documentation to Help Domestic Violence Victims

Pastor Neil Schori Urges Pastors and Church Leaders to Get it Right about Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence Awareness Month – Safety Planning

Book Review Series –“The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace – Chapter Thirteen – Submission Provides Protection?

Pastors and Church Leaders: do you know who is in your audience? Well-intentioned sermons may be harmful to survivors.

Book Review Series –"The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace – Chapter Fourteen – A Wife's Orderly Way to Respond to Her Husband's Evil Responses

Domestic Violence Survivor Responds to Wayne Grudem's Change of Opinion on "Allowing" Divorce for Abuse in Marriage

Blaming Abuse on Satan is Not Enough